Not Being Who You're Suppose To Be

Many people in this world want you to be someone. Chances are that person is not who you actually are.

Many people in this world want you to fit into a box that makes everyone else feel safe. Chances are that box doesn’t fit you.

Many people in this world want you to confirm their suspicions about who they think you are. Chances are their suspicions are way off.

But many people in this world don’t want you to be just anyone. The person we’re supposed to be is based on how these people perceive us and who societal norms say we should be.

More specifically, the person we’re supposed to be is based on how we look, our race, our gender, our sexual orientation, where we’re from, who our parents are, and any number of other factors that don’t come anywhere close to defining the depth of who we actually are. And perhaps, above all, we’re supposed to be someone who doesn’t make anyone else feel uncomfortable or confused. We’re supposed to stick to the script and fit into the lowest common denominator of the person we’re supposed to be.
Often times, this person we’re supposed to be isn’t anything like who we actually are. This person we’re supposed to be is a caricature. This person we’re supposed to be is stereotypical. This person we’re supposed to be is way too simplistic. This person we’re supposed to be is only black and white; there’s no grey area allowed.

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